Self-Help

I bought a bunch of comedy DVDs soon into a devasting mourning period. Laughter was part of my self-directed self-help program.  

Some problems are not as obvious to understand as loss of a loved one.  

You have to realize that you have a problem! Take responsibility for it; don't blame others; don't cop-out. 

Are you in denial? Is that stopping your progress?

Study your problems and dig out what's behind them. Don't make assumptions. Get to the root.  What is  motivating behaviour behind actions? 

Devise Improvement Goals

After recognizing what behaviors you need to change, self-help sources are out there: books, workshops, groups, seminars, the Internet; radio must be talking about this. 

Proceed Carefully

Choose self-help that focuses on what you need to fix. A parent who has a problem with a child may consult with a family counselor. If stress management is your thorn, you may choose a book written by a trusted professional or scholar.

Self-help methods can guide you. Follow a path and measure your progress. Remember your original problem and stay on track! You can't solve the world's problems, but you have a shot at a particular one of yours. 

Use your progress to become aware of the positive changes you've created in your life.

You may find that you are making more objective lifestyle choices.

Self-help is useful if you have enough objectivity and self-awareness to assess your problems honestly. 

If you're in denial about a problem or aren't motivated to change, self-help will not help you.

Some mental issues call for bona fide therapy and maybe, medication. Bipolar disorder, schizophrenia and severe depression usually are treated with meds and professional guidance.  

Be kind to yourself. Then, be kind to others. 

Are you in denial?